Valentine's Day Special

'Will you be my Valentine?' said the Spider to the Fly

I read this statement in one of the blogs and it actually got me thinking. I googled it and read the poem the "The spider and the fly" . It was funny and in the end it had a moral too.

So how my thought process went was something like this. The first thing that came to my mind was who was the spider and who was the fly in the above scenario ? In the sense that are men the spiders and women the flies or vice versa ? Being the equal oppurtunity guy I am, I thought I would argue the case both ways.

Men who claim they are the flies

Ofcourse we are the flies, arent we? Easily duped by that feminine charm, with those lovey dovey faces, with every trick in the world they ever conjured. What choice do we hapless men have ? We have to invent pick up lines, we have to show them that we are different or atleast we need to have a good bank balance if not Hrithik like looks. It gives us nightmares thinking about whats the next move we need to make to make her stay. Am I treating her too non chalantly or am I suffocating her with too much attention. Am I supposed to hold her hand while crossing the road or would she think that I am being amorous. But still the web is so strong that one we are stuck we are stuck for life unless ofcourse the spiderwoman is on men diet.

Men who claim they are the spiders.

Ha ha women, those fragile looking things, those easily culpable species who would lap up any shit we give. They keep dreaming about Mr Prince Charming who would come on a stallion and save them from the dragons of life, but poor little things how would they know that Mr Prince Charming himself is a dragon in disguise - Mu ha ha (evil laugh). We just need to don the role of this guy who listens to all their woes, who provides them the emotional and financial security and they would walk into any trap. Its a men's world my dear f of s and the only place for you women is in the kitchen and the only work they are capable of doing is procreating - Mu ha ha.

Women who claim they are the spiders

Men ? Lol what a joke they are. The whole purpose God created them was to be a toy in the hands of a woman and when she gets tired she can dump them in any garbage can she wishes and play with another toy. You know something - The greatest trick the devil ever played was to convince the world that it doesnt exist. Thats how we have been all the way. We act as if we are subservient to men, we convince them that without them we cannot survive, we make them feel that they are the masters, they are mighty powerful capable of inflicting any hardship on us and trust us these men are suckers for power however virtual it may be. Now you know who the real master is and History stands testimony to the power wielded by us. And the quote 'Hell hath no fury as a Woman's scorn' is definitely not a bugaboo.

Women who claim they are the flies.

You know he says that I am the most beautiful woman he has ever met and he cannot live without me and he would spend his entire life trying to make me happy and he kneels down on one knee and pops up the inevitable quetion every women so badly wants to be asked - Will you marry me ? And thats it we get all teary eyed and say 'Yesss'. What did we knew then that tomorrow the ritual is going to be repeated with another setting and another woman. By the time we wake up to the harsh realities of life we are already devoured. We fall for the same old formula again and again and how we wish we can learn from our mistakes.

So guys here I have been the counsel for all the four cases and you being the Jury pass the Judgement.

Wonder Years

Ever since I laid my eyes on the television series 'Wonder Years', I have been hit with a bout of nostalgia of my own wonder years. Those were the years when I was in college(2000-2004). The people who made those years wonderful were K and R. For me the only times I vividly remember of my days in college were the times I spent with these two guys.

For starters we guys were very different from each other. We were from different family backgrounds, different localities, different schools with different ambitions. K wanted to get into IIT very badly and he is one person I know who deserved to get in there. R wanted to be a doctor. As for me I was just the same as I am now not knowing what I want. But some how we landed up in Electronics and Communication department in SRM engineering college. At times I wonder what would have happened if K would have got IIT and R into a Medical college, how my college life would have been. I am sure no matter what followed it could have never been what it had been.

We guys had some sort of bond, some kind of common frequency of communication which only we would understand, for the rest of the world it was encrypted or unintelligible. I couldnt put my finger on one day, one incident which brought us together because we never realized nor we acknowledged the thing we shared until later. It just happened over a period of time and it was as oblivious to us as it was to everyone else. We used to do everything together (except studies) right from grading the chicks (R was pretty good at spotting things in Chicks which me and K would have overlooked otherwise), playing cricket, watching movies, participating in culturals or having late nite talks.

Our usual hangout place was K's home, we used to play cricket on weekends in the street and we used to fight tooth and nail against each other. We used to call each other names, yell at each other, utter obscenities, we were as fierce as we could be and thats the way we liked it. And it was all forgotten with out any effort once the game got over. K's mom used to serve us some hot energy drink and some dosai too(Yummy). We used to play Uno, computer games, listen to a common play list on K's comp ( we all had our gals ofcourse it was one way traffic but what the hell we dint care about it then), play carroms and then we used to go to a place and have yummy choclate milk. And our idea of an ideal way to spend time was to see Dil Chahtha Hain and we would make sure that it would be only 3 of us. During college tours we used to share the same room and we used to laugh our hearts over things which to others might never seem funny.

There have been various faces I had put on to various people in life but with these guys it was just me. It was so simple to be with them, no pretention was necessary, no fear of saying anything which would hurt them. It was just plain and simple as I always thought freindship should be. The best thing about it was we never had to explain ourselves unless we wanted to. We always gave each other the space and time. People around used to be curious about how come we guys were like the way we were and they used to be surprised when we said that we never called each other up for small talk . Even when we used to meet after a long time we felt as if we had just met yesterday.

Remember in Dil Chahtha Hain when Akshay Khanna says that 3 of them were like that boat which would seek a particular destination and their destinations might be different. I never understood the full implications of that dialogue until much after college. As it turned out our destinations were different. I wouldnt say we grew apart but certainly the communication between us did reduce starkly. When ever we used to meet we would again talk as if we parted so recently. But on these meetings what I also realized was that we were changing. We no longer were what we have been in the past, the differences were subtle but I guess all 3 of us sensed them and accepted them as if it was the most natural thing to happen. Our ways of looking at life, relationships, people, career, success were all different. May be they have always been different may be not but the realization that they were different dint dawn on me until later after college. I woudnt say it made me sad but it certainly made me feel that something was lost. Things were different now and they perhaps never will be like what they were.

Though me and K work in the same company we hardly see each other not because we dont want to its probably because we never took an effort to (which has always been like that) or probably our priorities have changed. As for R he is in a different city from us but we hardly call him up because we have never called each other just like that. When in college if any of our Bday was due the other two used to plan atleast a week before as to how to celebrate it. Now the other day I even forgot the fact that it was R's Bday. Not that he would mind me not wishing him( I would be foolish to think that he would) but that day I thought long into the night as to how did I forget R's Bday ?

Now atleast we meet twice or thrice a year but in the years to come I can hardly hope even for that cos we might be in different countries for all we know. But I am sure of one thing even if we meet once in ten years we would still have a good time as we have always had. I am going to meet these guys today for dinner and I am sure I will have a great time. But nothing can equal the time we had in college, those were the best days of my life.

I am Back !!!

Hello Guys,

First of all I owe an apology to people who expected the Trial part 2 to be posted soon or so I promised. Sorry Guys, had a really important two months and was too busy with a lot of things(more on this later) hence was not able to blog. Anyway I would blog regularly from now onwards unless hit by a writers block (but thats a rare possibility since to be hit by a writers block one has to be a writer in first place and I don think I can call myself that - I am aint being modest here). So guys I am back to fulltime blogging and watch this space for regular updates :).

Ciao for now folks, work beckons.

Avi.